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There are many ways to use your voice. The most obvious is to speak or sing. Discussion, hopefully civil, leads to understanding and hopefully growth both for yourself and for those with whom you choose to share those thoughts and sounds with.


Voice can also mean texts. How often in this day and age do we forgo the use of the phone (what it’s primary directive is technically supposed to be) for text speak and interaction? Being able to text someone, for whatever reason, is not only less intrusive, but EASY. We can put it out there and they can either respond or not as they see fit.

Voice can also mean what we share online. Whether it’s benign or caustic, whether it’s a tweet, a Facebook status update, an Instagram picture or whatever other new form of social media interaction is bound to come along, what we share online is also our voice. The downfall here is that we can mask our true voice so exceptionally easily if we choose to and there are many that do in favor of living out some form of alternate reality. I do my best, personally, to be unapologetically me regardless where I am.


But more importantly in this day and age (and in light of recent events) using your voice means speaking out about the causes you object to and supporting those that you do. I am finding myself, more and more, becoming actively vocal on the issues that matter to me. But I also accept and realize that part of that involvement means I have to not only vote more (particularly at the local level) but also reach out to those who are my elected officials, even if they are part of an opposing party, to fill them in on what I desire as one of their constituents.

Our Constitution was created with the idea that every person (and we can obviously argue what the term “person” meant in 1776) participate in their government. Yes, we were substantially smaller both geographically as well as population wise but that document, along with the Declaration of Independence, was constructed to ensure that those rights be inalienable – unable to be taken away from or given away.


But they knew then that in order for this American Experiment to work and be successful, we ALL had to partake of it which includes our civic duty to understand the documents, to understand our part in the larger picture and to utilize our resources (our elected officials) to the best of their (and our) abilities.

I have become far more critical and vocal about a number of issues lately, particularly our government but we also need to be critical of ourselves as a people and as what we were intended to be – the ruling body.

Let us not forget that. Let us teach our children the importance of that. Let us use our voice – regardless what your political beliefs are, to participate in this experiment and be an active, involved and most importantly EDUCATED part of our country. Let us reach our to our elected officials through all means possible – phone, written word, social media, etc. and demand that they do their jobs to work for us (regardless religion, political party, socioeconomic status, gender, or otherwise). Without us, the experiment dies and we will degrade into that which We The People fear the most…..a “government” of extremists, oligarchs, dictators and religious zealots.

Use your voice.



Restarting and Expansion

I’ve decided to restart this blog for a few reasons. I’ve been primarily blogging (when time allows) on my goth-centered, pop-culture type blog over at Professional Goth. But I’m finding, more and more, that though I have more lighthearted thing I want to promote there, particularly with aesthetic and pop-culture, I have also wanted to use my voice more with world events and things going on that are more of a heavy conversation. That just doesn’t fit there, but I think here it will do nicely. An area for growth, introspection and tackling of the topics that we generally prefer to avoid.

So let us begin.

I am a firm believer that things happen for a reason. That the world as a whole swings like a pendulum between the grand and the horrific. We are human, after all and generally prone to the same fallacies, hubris and ego as well as the redemption, heroics and virtues. That also means that we will continually, collectively, stand at a crossroads. I believe we are there now. I believe that this generation, like the ones that have come before it, stands at the precipice of decision to who they are going to be. It’s a scary place for many. I know I, myself, am at best apprehensive and at worst terrified of what the next decade, the next 25, the next 50 years of my life will hold based on the decisions that are being made now.

It has become apparent that we need to stand up, raise our voices and take an active part on what is going on around us. Failure to do so, and to educate ourselves (on BOTH SIDES of any issue) so that we can make that educated choice means that we are complicit in what those outcomes will be – for good or ill. The scariest part, for me, is which side has the most movement and participation.

Moving forward, I can hope to provide those arguments, those viewpoints, those insights here for other of like-mindedness to appreciate and those of opposing-mindedness to ponder.

I will appreciate fact-driven, fact-proven discussion on what I post here regardless of what side it happens to be on. I will also require respect and an open-mind on both sides. Those that refuse to participate under those guidelines will be removed or blocked. You can have an opposing view, and I encourage that as it is from what opposition that education can be obtained. But, the whole point is to open dialogue and discussion. Disrespect, vitriol, malice – these will not be tolerated. Look at it like you are visiting someone’s home and are participating in a discussion within that house. This is my house. You may not agree with me and I’m alright with that. But you will be respectful, and all claims need to be substantiated with fact-driven proof. Opinions need to be promoted as such, as I will do as well.






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