A Stiff Drink………and Chocolate

Navigating Daily Life, One Step at a Time…

Archive for the tag “Reality”

May: Mental Health Awareness Month

With so many dealing with varying degrees of stress, depression, anxiety and a plethora of other mental health disorders or ailments – and having dealt with postpartum depression myself as well as being diagnosed with General Anxiety Disorder, I thought it only appropriate when a friend posted this on social media to include it here. Depression especially is insidious and hard to manage; whether you are the one afflicted or the support trying to help get them through it. Just remember that there IS help out there, whether its through medication management, behavioral therapy, or other methods. You dont HAVE to suffer. Not every way works for everybody and the only right way is what works for you (so long as you’re not hurting yourself or someone else!)

No More Excuses

I happen to be a Walt Disney World Annual Passholder. I love it. I’ve saved easily close to $2000 this year alone with it in part because, since I have a pass and going only costs gas effectively, I go a LOT more than I would were I not to have it. That being said, being a passholder has serious perks. I get free parking, which, with parking being $17 a day PER PARK if you’re not smart can add up. You get 10% off at certain merchant locations and that can add up too. Plus you can get discounts on booking rooms and other events. One of the nice perks about being an annual passholder is that you also get early pre-registration for events like the runDisney events!

The BIG runDisney event is the Walt Disney World Marathon Weekend in January. It fills up super fast, so having a proverbial leg up on being able to get your registration in can be a huge perk. Today happened to be early registration for annual passholders for said weekend!

Now, I’m no where ready to run a marathon, or even a half marathon BUT I am already registered for the Happy Haunted 5k during the Tower of Terror 10-Miler weekend in October. I thought to myself that a 10k shouldnt be too much more difficult in three more months, now could it? And this year just so happens to be the inaugural year for the 10k at WDW Marathon Weekend. Coincidence? I think not!

Therefore, yours truly is now registered for the 10k that very weekend.

This also means that yours truly needs to get off her soft flattened butt and start kicking it into gear! How? Well, I’m going to start running whenever I possibly can. Eating better and hopefully starting some strength training again. I have not one, but two races to train for now.

 

 

Deadline didn’t quite happen

Well, so I wanted to start off April 1st eating better and cutting out fast food and soda in particular. That didnt happen, unfortunately, due to circumstances outside of my control. I wasn’t able to eat before leaving for work in the morning, so of course old habits kicked in and I got something on the way in since I didnt have anything at work that I knew I would be able to eat.

That being said, today I’m scaling back. I did get my usual bagel with egg and cheese and the soda, but held off on the cookies. I also was able to chow down on a waffle and some raspberries before I left the house. It’s not perfect, but it’s also not cold turkey and it’s a start! Today is the second, yesterday wasn’t a set back and I have the rest of the week to get into the right schedule. Besides, I have a birthday party to go to on Sunday and that will be filled with soda and cake. 😉 There is no point in denying myself and its known that if you deny yourself your cravings it will make it worse.

Its about moderation and in order to get back into that habit, one needs to make steps.

The wives tale is that it takes 21 days to make or break a habit. Recent research shows that the estimate is actually 66, but just like everyone it’s different from person to person. So, I resolve to make little changes every day and be consistent in them from day to day. This will hopefully allow me to ease into my new lifestyle choices and make better decisions when eating.

Tonight, is grocery shopping. Here I come fruits, proteins and good yummy stuff!

Changing Lifestyles – Breakfast

Breakfast is the most important meal of the day, right? So what do you do when you’re first meal of the day ends up inevitably being most of your daily allowance of calories? Changing your lifestyle isn’t easy! It’s far more convenient to live in the manner with which you’ve become accustomed and that’s exactly what I’m fighting with right now.

Take this McDonald’s ‘addiction’ I have. Its not so much that I prefer to eat at one of America’s most well known and horribly-unhealthy for you fast food chains! But the sheer fact of the matter is, it’s the most convenient option for me! Or, at least, I keep telling myself it is when I get up in the morning. I have four of them that I can count immediately that are directly between my home and my work. FOUR! It’s no wonder that the restaurant chain owns the largest share in it’s market!  And, well, yeah, I do have a soft spot for their Coke and Chocolate Chip Cookies.

 

Yummmy! Too bad three of these bad boys = 480 calories!

 

I’m also the sort that isn’t hungry upon immediately waking up. I’d rather wait an hour or so before I ingest some wonderful sustenance. But I also have a tendency to wake up basically an hour before I need to leave the house to head into work. I dont have quite the same issue, for instance, on the weekends when I dont need to go anywhere first thing. I can take my time, wake up, and then eat when I’m ready. During the week, running around, trying to get into work, I would prefer to wait and generally dont find myself hungry until about an hour after waking. Issue there? By then I’m in the car and hey look…it’s one of those four McDonalds!

So then, the question begs to differ, how best to change my lifestyle to avoid the Calorie Pit? I can try to eat at home, prior to being hungry but the issue there in is that if I’m not hungry, I simply won’t eat! (Which makes sense, right? Why bother eating if A.) you’re not feeling it and B.) you’re not going to ENJOY what you’re putting in your mouth?!) I can eat when I get to work, but that entails making sure I have food there to eat – which also requires me anticipating what I’m going to WANT to eat for breakfast on any given morning.

 

I need this to determine lunch at work!

 

The first lifestyle change I think I need to make, is to stop going to fast food places first thing in the morning and eating 1000 calories right off the bat, and figuring out a different way to change how my mind thinks about breakfast.

Bandwagons…I’ve Fallen

So, I was doing great working on getting myself centered and back into a healthy lifestyle in order to get my body where I want it. I’m not unrealistic. It’s going to take a while and this Size 12 will be a bit before it’ll see a Size 5 again (or even a 6.)

I had started with eating five smaller meals a day as well as walking (power walking) every day at lunch. I mean, I get an hour and I don’t need that long so what else was I going to do?!) Now, if I could RUN during lunch that would be awesome, but I have no desire to gross out my coworkers with the glistening dew that will inevitably grace my presence after working out like that. So power walking it is!

Then I slid slowly off the wagon and let it all go again. Work, school, family…I’m starting to become convinced that I will be unable to attain all of my goals physically until I’m no longer having to worry about school! At least my final summer session is right around the corner.

So here is the game plan – I’m going to use the blog in part to help hold me responsible for meeting my goals. I’ll start posting my daily caloric intake/use and activity level (if any) for that day. I need to start getting myself disciplined. I have no excuses for that.

 

Tolerance….

So I’m watching Sister Wives on TLC and marveling about the intolerance that some people have. The Browns have started a business based on one of the wives designs under My Sisterwife’s Closet. They took their business to an expo where the Warren Jeffs cult existed (which may have not been the best bet for a starting expo) and there were a number of folks that bashed their way of life. Now, I can understand given the culture that resides in that particular area where the locals may not take to kindly to it. However, to pass judgement on a whole family who obviously love one another and do everything they can to make things work is absolutely wrong as well.

The same can be said for other groups as well. I see it within those that paint a the law enforcement community with a broad spectrum brush. I see it with those that are painting those for or against the Zimmerman/Martin controversy. I see it every day that people have opinions on groups of individuals, and honestly I wish there were more tolerance.

I know I’m not perfect. There have certainly been times where I could be more tolerant myself (Hello, Disney! Why do people insist on cutting of folks with strollers and/or young children or motorized scooters?!)  But it appalls me when I see a lack of tolerance against a whole community that is not hurting anyone.

Now, if your community promotes violence, lawlessness, or otherwise causes harm to others (or yourself), then I’m sorry, I have no tolerance for you. But to see someone say that they hate a family simply because they live a differing lifestyle then they do is appalling to me. Warren Jeffs is a monster and his lifestyle hurt others. The Brown family hurts no one. Their children are intelligent, nurtured and well-adjusted to the realities of not only their family but also how the outside world can and will look at them.

I only wish there was a little more tolerance. It would go a long way in this world I think….

Love is…

choosing to stay even when things aren’t ideal. In this day and age when kids are looking for instant gratification, when you can access anything online and the next best thing is just around the corner, it’s no wonder that the divorce rate in America is so high. Gone is the generation that knows, needs and understands you have to work at things. Those are the folks that find love and stay married for 20, 30, 40+ years. 

Why is that? What makes that love? Love isn’t a Disney movie, though there are things in Disney movies which are realistic and what one should work towards. (If you’re curious what I mean, just go to Pinterest!) Love isnt a fairy tale. Once the honeymoon is over and the chemicals are settled down, you have to decide every day is this where you want to be? Is this who you want to be with? Can you imagine living another day without that voice, that face, that smile, that being next to you? 

You may not like that person RIGHT NOW. You may wake up and something happens and you’re angry and upset with that person. But just because in this moment you are unhappy, either with them, or with yourself, that doesnt mean that the next moment things may change. 

Just because TODAY was tough doesnt mean that tomorrow will be. 

And that’s where I think that this generation coming up is missing the mark and doesnt understand what previous generations, the ones that made it 30+ years together, understands. If you wake up and EVERY DAY is miserable, then yes, get out. If the relationship is abusive then you had BETTER get out. But if its just today, then stick with it if you love this person. Life isn’t ideal, its not a fairy tale and that high you feel in the beginning wont always be. To believe that is to be unrealistic and to set yourself up for disaster. 

Love is perseverance, understanding, empathy, communication, patience, and most importantly….WORK. 

Post Navigation